"God Won't Give You More Than You Can Handle"

"God will never give you more than you can handle"

I can't even tell you how many times I've heard this. I've probably even said it to someone myself... but over the last several months I've realized how much I hate this phrase. What's supposed to be so uplifting has actually become insulting. When it is said, it almost makes it out to be that I'm a failure if I'm not able to handle what I'm going through at the moment. As I struggle to make sense of the last few months this phrase isn't helpful. It's destructive.

Truth is... I've come to learn that God frequently gives me more than I can handle and constantly shows me that I cannot do it without him.

This last miscarriage has been difficult for me to process. Maybe it's because of the large amount of money that was spent to try to achieve pregnancy, maybe it's because I have two children already and many just see this longing as selfish, maybe its because of how many times I've had to hear "you just have to let it go" or that there will be no more attempts, maybe it's because society has a just don't talk about it mentality, I don't know. But what I do know is that in an effort to continue with day to day life (cause let's face it... life doesn't stop or go away) I've sucked it up and just kind of isolated my grief in the back of my mind. Its what I do when I don't really feel like there's anything I can do.

In the midst of my grieving and questioning of God's faithfulness God sent me this song while visiting my sister's church....

We Will Not Forget

(Click Here to Listen)

I love that God uses so many different ways to speak to us. And I believe this was mine.

I looked online for it and could never seem to find it. I messaged my sister who said "maybe it's written by our staff.. I'll have to find out".  This weekend I finally got to meet the man who produced it and he told me the name of his album on Itunes so I could purchase it. Now when I start to forget the faithfulness of God I will remind myself to

"not forget Lord, you are faithful. You're not finished yet there's more to come. We'll keep pressing on... this will be our song... We will not forget"

and I will declare that

"... by the story of your love, we will overcome"

So incredibly thankful for the many people who use their God given talents and gifts to love on others and remind them of the amazing faithfulness of God.

Psalm 59:16 

But as for me, I will sing about your power. Each morning I will sing with joy about your unfailing love. For you have been my refuge, a place of safety when I am in distress.